THE KING’S SCHOOL OF MARRIAGE (KSM)
(A Special Marriage and Relationship Training Programme for Singles and Marrieds, and Also for Separated, Divorced, Widows, Parents and Clerics Under The King’s People Connection and Happy Marriage Training Institute)
Lecture Number: LECTURE 104
Lecture Topic: THE SANGUINE TEMPERAMENT
Lecturer: A. T. ADENEKAN
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1. INTRODUCTION
Good Day to You Today.
We’ve done Lectures 101, 102, and 103. I hope you’re all enjoying the Classes?
If YES, I’ll like each person to Tell Me 4 WAYS This Training Has Helped You So Far.
Now I’m not just talking about what you’ve learnt but how you’ve been blessed and how the training has helped and benefitted you since we started.
You may start sending them in immediately after reading this.
There are two ways you can do this, please choose one or better still do the two.
One way is by writing your name and what you do. For example:
My name is Alaba T. Adenekan, I’m a Preacher and an Author. This KSM Haply Marriage Africa training has really helped me in a lot of ways:
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Then you’ll go ahead and write those things, ways it has helped you. Itemise them.
Another way is to just write what you do, or your career and location and then say how the training has helped you or what you’ve benefitted so far. For example:
I’m a Relationship Consultant from Lagos Nigeria, and this KSM Happy Marriage Africa training has helped me in the following ways:
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I want everyone in to do this. We need to know how each of you is benefitting from this training.
We shall use it to tell others so they can join and also benefit. That’s why you don’t need to put your name if you don’t want to. But you must put your occupation and location.
You can either e-mail it to happymarriageinstitute@gmail.com or WhatsApp it to me at +2347030371153.
Everyone has to do it tonight. Because we are getting done with the first phase of this training today, but before we move to the second phase, we want to know what you’ve benefitted or the decisions you’ve made so far as a result of the training. We want to know how this training has helped you.
Alright. Let’s MOVE on!
You’re all doing GREAT. GOD bless you all. We are glad for all of you that are sending in your comments. Thank you for being a part of this special training.
2. THE FIRST OF THE FOUR TEMPERAMENTS
Today is Class 104.
And we are discussing Part 2 of Temperament Compatibility, with a Focus on THE FOUR TYPES OF TEMPERAMENTS.
Remember I said people think, talk and act the way they do because of their temperament?
That, our temperaments are
responsible for our characters and behaviours.
And that each temperament has its own strengths and weaknesses.
Now, let’s briefly examine each of these four temperaments and seven of each’s strengths and weaknesses.
So we have a lot to cover today, as we discuss the first one, because I shall touch on some very important things.
I’ll like you all to follow well and write down your questions. Though you might not have much questions.
As I analyse each temperament, you need to first IDENTIFY YOUR OWN TEMPERAMENT and then IDENTIFY the one that can complement you in marriage or the temperament of your partner if you’re already married or in a relationship.
Let’s start with the SANGUINE TEMPERAMENT.
SANGUINE is one temperament that is categorised as OUTGOING or EXTROVERT.
I hope you’re following?
All the four temperaments are broadly divided into two…
Two of them are called EXTROVERTS and the other two are referred to as INTROVERTS.
Extroverts are the OUTGOING people…
People that are Sociable and visibly show interests in other people.
They connect and relate with people easily.
They talk, flow and make friends.
Introverts are the Non-sociable people who are always Shy; they don’t visibly show interests in people like the extroverts do.
So, SANGUINES are EXTROVERTS.
They socialise and show interests in others…
Well, that doesn’t mean they love others more than they love themselves o.
But they love to make Friends…more easily than the others temperaments do.
Let’s start with seven good things about the sanguine temperament…their Good Sides.
But before then, you must know that THE MOST OUTSTANSING TRAIT or THE MOST NOTICEABLE FEATURE OF A SANGUINE TEMPERAMENT is that THEY ARE TALKATIVES.
They love to TALK…and they are ALWAYS TALKING…and that talking or TALKATIVENESS could either be used as a Strength or as a Weakness or Both. It depends on the person.
ANYONE YOU SEE who TALKS TOO MUCH or who likes to talk all the time is most likely a Sanguine.
Sometimes they don’t know when to talk and when not to talk…where to talk and where to keep quiet…
They just TALK…it’s in their blood.
Now, let’s discuss their seven strengths…
3. THE STREGNTHS OR GOOD SIDE OF A SANGUINE TEMPERAMENT
I. They are FRIENDLY, they make friends easily. They are the first to come to you and introduce themselves or ask your name. They like to make friends.
II. They are INTERACTIVE, they interact well with people. They always like interacting or talking with people.
They could engage you in discussion and you’ll really enjoy talking with them.
III. They are OPTIMISTIC, no matter what’s going on, they believe things will work out well. They don’t believe things are as bad as they appear…
They always believe there are better days ahead. Things will change and eventually turn out positively.
IV. They are COMPASSIONATE, they have genuine love for people. They show compassion and love to people, because they truly love People and are therefore looking out for people’s good.
They show great compassions…that’s why people love and accept them easily. They always rise to the occasions of helping people.
V. They’re ENTHUSIASTIC, they’re always excited and showing great interests in people or things. They are always excited about something or nothing.
They can talk passionately about anything and they can sell you anything. They almost always are lively.
VI. They’re CHEERFUL, they always like to cheer people up. You’ll hardly see a sanguine quiet for too long. If they enter into a quiet environment, they’ll make sure that place becomes lousy and cheerful.
They know what to say to cheer people up no matter how downcast the person might be. They could make you laugh even though you’re weeping at a bad news you just received.
VII. They are MOTIVATING, they can talk you into achieving within a short while what you never thought you’re capable of ever achieving in your entire life.
They have the power and ability to motivate people to pursue their dreams, come out of depression and achieve great things in their lives and with their time.
So, the Sanguines are a very special kinds of people in our world…that makes our world beautiful by cheering people up and making them forget their sorrows and putting wonderful smiles on people’s faces instead of sorrowful hearts.
They can’t be in a place and the place is ever dull.
They know how to make people laugh.
They know how to cheer people up.
They can talk you out of your problems and make you forget your sorrows.
And they really LOVE people….
Does anyone know people like that?
Or are you someone like that?
Or, are we talking about your partner?
I hope someone is with me?
Alright…
You know, when you see someone like this, it’s EASY to fall in love with them.
And so many people so easily do fall in love with them.
But, remember, everyone that’s Good also has a Bad Side…
So, are you ready to know the Bad Sides…weaknesses of the Sanguine Temperament?
You might not like it o…
4. THE BAD SIDES OR WEAKNESSES OF A SANGUINE TEMPERAMENT
I. They Are INDISCIPLINED…
They lack self control in every way. They can’t just control themselves to obey instructions or do what they’re supposed to do when they’re supposed to do it.
When you tell them “Don’t make any posts here until Lecture starts in the evening.” They’ll likely make the post before you finish telling them…or immediately they finish reading the instruction. They are also restless and can’t stay in one place for too long or focus on one thing for long.
II. They are DECEITFUL…
You can hardly trust their words at any time.
If a Sanguine tells you it is morning, you need to be sure the sun is not shining in its strengths…
They can lie and feel nothing bad about it. They can lie and raise up a seven-day dead person by their lies.
They could tell you something with their mouth while they’re thinking something else in their mind…
They could tell you you’re the only one in their life while they have 21 other persons somewhere else.
III. They Are DISHONEST…
Telling the truth is alien to them…😀😀😀
So they can easily defraud people.
You can’t trust a Sanguine much except if he or she is truly Born Again and obeying the Bible.
If not, you’ll be sorry for yourself if you allow yourself to be carried away by his or her sugar-coated mouth and words.
IV. They Are DISORGANISED…
They can dress so well and ATTRACTIVE that they “Slay” outside but you need to get to their room before you know how DIRTY they could be.
They are always looking for something in the house because they are so disorganised that they put their important stuff anywhere they like…because of their lack of discipline, only for them to start searching for it when they need to make use of it.
But, a normal and untransformed Sanguine would still make the mistake the next time…because they hardly learn from their mistakes.
V. They are UNDEPENDABLE…
You can’t depend on them at any time for anything…don’t even dare to expect them to keep their promises to you…
They don’t keep appointments. If they told you they’ll see you at 2:00pm, well, you might expect them at 3:00pm or even 6:00pm.
They can promise you Heaven and earth, in a very convincing way…but, My Dear, if you don’t give yourself some good brain, you’ll just get yourself disappointed.
So when someone is promising you the universe while you’re dating or courting…be sure he or she is not a Sanguine. Because if they are, just don’t expect those things or promises to be fulfilled in your marriage. I’ve told you now o.
VI. They Are FORGETFUL…
They can forget what they’ve told you, forget about you once you’re out of sight, forget what you’ve even done for them in the past and forget you just lost your dad.
While they’re with you, they share in your joy and pain, genuinely and truthfully, but once they left you, they completely forgot all about it.
So you may think they weren’t sincere while with you, but no, they were sincere. It is just part of their nature that once they leave you they forget about that. Because they live in the present…not in the past.
So the fact that he doesn’t call you or remember what you said last or what he promised you, doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you…it’s just part of his nature…na temperament cause am.
VII. They Are CARELESS…
You can’t commit important things into their hands…
They could spoil or destroy it and don’t feel bad about it beyond two minutes.
Is someone still with me?
5. THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!
So, when you’re considering marriage to a Sanguine based on his or her good sides, you must consider the bad sides too and ask yourself…
CAN I LIVE WITH HIM OR HER LIKE THIS AND BE HAPPY FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?
Asking that question before you get married is the Key to your happiness in marriage…it would help you PREPARE for the worst while you are also expecting the Best.
Ask yourself, “Can I Complement His or Her Weaknesses while Appreciating His or Her Strengths?”
DOES HE/SHE HAVE WHAT I LACK…DO I HAVE WHAT HE/SHE NEEDS?
So that we can COMPLEMENT each other…
But if you’re married and you discover a Sanguine is your husband or wife, your questions should be…
HOW CAN I LIVE WITH HIM OR HER LIKE THIS AND BE HAPPY FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE?
Ask yourself, “Now That I Know This, What Can I Do from Now to Complement My Husband’s or Wife’s Weaknesses and How Can I Start Appreciating His or Her Strengths?”
WHAT DOES HE/SHE HAVE THAT I LACK…WHAT DO I HAVE THAT HE/SHE NEEDS?
How Can I Enjoy What He or She Has that I Like and Need, and How Can I Supply What He/she Lacks That I Have?
So that we can COMPLEMENT each other…
While you enjoy what your partner has that you like, you’ll find a way to also always supply what they lack that you need. Not just complain all the time. That’s how you will enjoy your husband or wife.
Do you now understand me?
Before you get married, shine your eyes very well, study your prospective partner based on this Lecture, and ask yourself the right questions so you’ll know what you’re entering into before you enter it. Don’t say you didn’t know. Now you know.
But if you’re married, stop complaining about your spouse, carry your cross and follow your husband, carry your cross and lead your wife. He or she has some bad sides you dislike, but he or she also has the good side that you enjoy.
So, what do you do?
Ask yourself the above questions, prepare yourself better, and then Enjoy the Good Side and Adjust to the Bad Side While Also Assisting Him or Her to Get Better in That Bad Aspect.
Does anybody have QUESTIONS?
You may start doing what I told you at the beginning of the Lecture to do…we need EACH PERSON to do it please. You may either send it here now or private message it to me.
Remember, tomorrow is your first EXAMINATIONS.
READ UP!
Any questions so far?
On either today’s lecture or any of the previous lectures?
And, if you’ve ever posted any question that’s not yet answered, please repost it.
We shall continue with the other three temperaments in our next lectures, after the tomorrow’s exams. So tomorrow, we shall first have an exam, then have our Lecture.
Don’t Forget Your DAILY SOCIAL MEDIA ASSIGNMENTS.
POST 4 lessons learnt on FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, LINKEDIN, TWITTER, WHATSAPP and other social platforms you’re on, and TAG ME.
If you’ve not done any of the previous assignments, please do them NOW or before tomorrow.
We take everything seriously here. We may remove you if you’re not serious. We don’t want to sacrifice for nothing.
We shall appoint a Class Governor tomorrow with an Assistant or Class Secretary. Prepare to Nominate Someone or Yourself. Or I’ll just appoint by myself.
Study all four lessons learnt so far and be ready for your exams…don’t worry it’ll be very easy.
We shall also have a GENERAL DISCUSSION if time permits.
Tonight’s Personal Assignment is this:
List Seven Things You Want in a LIFE PARTNER…whether you’re in a relationship or not. Just list, write somewhere, SEVEN GOOD THINGS YOU WANT IN A LIFE PARTNER or YOU WANT TO SEE IN YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE.
6. IT WAS NOT THERE BEFORE THEY FELL
Now, before we round off this lecture…I want us to do something…right now…and I want you to do this wherever you are.
But let me first tell you why you need to do it before I tell you what it is.
You must know that THESE WEAKNESSES OF TEMPERAMENT is not the original plan and intention of GOD in the beginning or when He created Adam and Eve.
They didn’t have these bad sides when they were in the Garden…because the Bible says GOD SAW EVEEYTHING HE HAD CREATED AND IT WAS ALL GOOD.
So GOD didn’t create dishonesty and deception with man…He didn’t give anyone something that would take them to hell fire as being part of their character…or nature.
So, why do people then have weaknesses and bad sides?
It is because of the Nature of Sin.
When Adam and Eve allowed themselves to be deceived by Satan in the Garden of Eden, and fell from GOD’S GRACE IN THAT GARDEN ON THAT DAY…
The nature of SIN entered into their lives…they gave up some of the good things in them that GOD gave and created with them, and then RECEIVED SOME THINGS FROM SATAN…
They received parts of the nature and attributes of the devil.
As they accepted to disobey GOD and embraced the words of deception and lies that Satan sold to them…
There was an AUTOMATIC TRANSFER of certain attributes and characteristics of the Devil who deceived them FROM HIM TO THEM…
So, after the Fall…Adam and Eve who couldn’t lie before now began to tell lies.
Because they had put on the nature of Satan and accepted THE CHARACTERS OF THE DEVIL.
So, Eve and Adam who were always honest and truthful before now began to DECEIVE and become DISHONEST WITH EACH OTHER…
THEY NOW BEGAN TO EXHIBIT THE NATURE and CHARACTER OF THE DEVIL…
7. A MIXTURE OF TWO NATURES
So now, they have a mixture of both the CHARACTER OF GOD and the CHARACTER OF SATAN in THEM.
That’s why GOD had to send them out of the Garden of Eden.
Because they are now behaving like Satan…at times.
And Satan or anyone like him or anyone that has any Character like his own, cannot be with GOD or dwell where GOD is or lives.
That’s why Satan was cast out of and down from Heaven in the beginning.
Therefore, anyone that has in him or her what belongs to Satan cannot enter the Kingdom of GOD…CANNOT MAKE HEAVEN AT LAST…will surely go to HELL FIRE at the end.
That’s why you must not glory in your weaknesses that are sinful…or bad character or bad sides…
But you must work to CHANGE from it to good…especially if it is a SINFUL BAD SIDE.
ANYTIME YOU MANIFEST those things that are the bad side you have…know that you are at that time MANIFESTING the CHARACTER OF THE DEVIL, if it is sinful.
You are showing the NATURE OF SATAN.
And you can’t make Heaven with it…except for the ones that are not sinful.
So, what do you do?
You GIVE YOUR LIFE TO JESUS CHRIST.
GET BORN AGAIN NOW.
Wherever you are, pray and say…
LORD JESUS, I’VE BEEN A SINNER ALL MY LIFE, I HAVE BEEN EXHIBITING THE CHARACTER OF THE DEVIL…BUT I DON’T WANT TO DO THAT ANYMORE. I ACCEPT YOU AS MY PERSONAL LORD AND SAVIOUR TODAY. AND I CONFESS THAT YOU ARE FROM NOW THE LORD OF MY LIFE…
GIVE ME THE POWER TO LIVE MY LIFE IN YOU FROM NOW…COME INTO ME AND LIVE IN ME AND THROUGH ME…TILL I PERFECTLY TRANSFORM and MAKE HEAVEN AT LAST WITH JOY…I RECEIVE THIS POWER TO LIVE IN CHRIST AND BECOME A CHILD AND SON OF GOD TODAY IN JESUS NAME…AMEN!
WELCOME INTO A NEW LIFE…WELCOME INTO THE KINGDOM OF GOD!
Thanks So Greatly.
Everyone must be Online tomorrow.
Do what I told you to do at the start of the Lecture NOW and make sure you do your assignments tonight.
Thanks Greatly!
CLASS CLOSE!